Emotional Sobriety

Codependency, Addiction, and Staying in a Fit Spiritual Condition
How to Stop Trying to Control PPT’s and Start Caring for Yourself
from Codependent No More by Melody Beattie 1986 (Edit and Inserts by Ron C.)
If You Are Not Enough Without a Gold Medal, You’ll Never Be Enough With One
(John Candy, Cool Runnings)

Introduction

Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship where our identity, self-esteem, and emotional needs become dependent upon the approval and validation of PPT’s in the horizontal of our lives, in order for us to try and fill the spiritual void of psycho-social dislocation — I’m not comfortable in my own skin, and not comfortable in the world around me. This “poverty of the spirit” is the underlying cause of our alcohol-ism.

We were still trying to find emotional security by being dominating or dependent upon others. (TT-117). Remind the prospect that their recovery is not dependent upon PPT’s in the horizontal or their lives. It is dependent upon their relationship with a HP in the vertical of their lives. (BB-99)

Codependency is sometimes thought of as an addiction because its progressive, habitual, and seems to be one of underlying causes of the dis-ease of alcohol-ism. We try to fill our spiritual void with the material reality of PPT’s in the horizontal of our lives, and because our dilemma is lack of power (BB-45) — all it does is give us the RIDs, puts us in an unfit spiritual…